Stranger Danger Part 1

I have been rather busy lately putting together some interesting sessions for the classes I teach at Kuk Sool Won.


One I am particularly pleased with is the upcoming Stranger Danger workshop on 14th November.

I have teamed up with the Local Police Department and PC Beavers has kindly offered to attend our stranger danger awareness workshop to offer help and advice to our students and their parents on this common area of concern.

PC Beavers has been in the police force over 7 years and has a vast experience that we are privileged to have access to. He is also a former Kuk Sool Won Black Belt so he is part of the family and understands the benefits of what we are trying to teach our students.

The session which is specifically tailored for children will include:
What is Stranger Danger
Why is it important
What you can do to avoid strangers
How to alert others
How and when to alert a police officer
Things you should know

I will report back with pictures after the workshop on the 14th to let you know how it goes.

The Simple Mantra for Beginners

I realise some of the posts I'm sharing may not appeal to all my readers and that is totally fine. It is entirely up to you what you read and what you do with the information that you take in.

I have found another passage in my notes about a simpler version of the self esteem mantra that may help some of you beginners out there. This simpler version is easier to get you started, but it is very important that you read it to yourself as it is written. e.g. you say "I am...." rather than "you are". When talking to yourself (which I do a lot) it is important that you understand the subconscious mind and how it retains information. If you say "you are confident" the mind hears it as if you are talking to someone else, even if there is nobody with you. You need to say "I am..." so the subconscious knows exactly who you are addressing.

Here's a few to help you:

1. I am confident and intelligent
2. I am at peace with myself
3. I am calm and relaxed
4. I am positive
5. I accept myself and others
6. I am unique/special/one of a kind
7. I like who I am and I like being me
8. I am a worthy person with a high self esteem
9. My self esteem is growing daily
10. I love the real me. I am happy being who I am
11. All I have to be is me
12. My life is meaningful and important
13. I'll now be the best me I can be
14. I grow and learn naturally
15. I know everyone makes mistakes, I now learn from my mistakes
16. Every experience is an opportunity to learn
17. I don't have to be perfect, I choose to be perfectly me
18. I have many good qualities
19. I am warm and kind
20. I am sensitive and friendly
21. I am honest and fair
22. I am caring, loving and lovable
23. I am competent
24. I am open minded
25. I am energetic, active and motivated
26. I am enthusiastic and goal orientated
27. I am committed to my goals
28. I appreciate who I am
29. I am aware of my potential
30. I feel good about myself
31. Everyday I am getting better and better and better

(Very) Important Note

You cannot compare yourself to anyone else - because you are not anyone else. You are you. No one else is exactly like you. You are happy with who you are. You breathe as a person who has high self esteem. Deep within you is a lovable person. Your life is meaningful and you are enjoying your life. Say to the person in the mirror " I like you" and really mean it.

Remember - It is perfectly OK to talk to yourself. It it perfectly OK to ask yourself questions. But if you find yourself saying "Eh"? to your thoughts you got a problem!

Finally - there is no need to act like anyone else, all you have to be is you. The real you.

Building your Self Esteem

4 Key Questions to start are:

1. What is self esteem?
2. How does it affect your daily routine and life?
3. Do you have a positive/good self esteem?
4. If you have a low esteem, why is that? Can you identify what has caused it?

Common reasons for low self esteem

1. The number one cause for low self esteem is "Negative Inputs". Remember - your subconscious mind records everything you tell it. If you are constantly putting yourself down or constantly receiving negative inputs from others then you will start to believe what you are being told over time. It may be from your childhood or parents or other major influence. Often the first word a child hears and learns is "No".
   
   If the negative inputs are coming from yourself - STOP IT NOW.
   
2. Negative or fearful reactions to situations past/present and future.
   

How to build a positive self esteem

1. Use positive talk when talking to yourself.
2. Read your Self Esteem Mantra everyday until you know it off by heart.
3. Realise and dismiss comments when you hear them that are harmful to your self esteem and replace them with positive ones.

What are the benefits of having a high self esteem and how to keep it

1. When you feel good about yourself your whole world changes for the better.
2. to pick yourself up repeat your mantra many times a day for 30 days.
3. Breathe as if you were a person who already has high self esteem. This will remind your body how you felt the last time your esteem was high. This will help reproduce the feeling of high self esteem. This is the hardest technique to do, but when you try it and believe in it, you will get the best results from this one technique alone.
4. Let yourself feel and enjoy the sensation of having a high self esteem.
5. Believe in your Self Esteem Mantra. Your subconscious doesn't know the difference so you can tell it whatever you like and it will believe what you say over time.

I hope you enjoy these sessions I am sharing with you and get some positive results over the next few weeks. These are all notes I have made over the years from seminars I have attended from the worlds best life coaches and motivational speakers. I am no expert in the field myself, but I have walked-the-walk and turned my life around from someone who had very little confidence, way too much fear and a low self esteem. I thought if I can do it... You can do it.

The Self Esteem Mantra

A couple of years ago now I put together some notes for a life coaching course I was delivering to help some friends through some of life's trials and tribulations.

I've been reading through these notes recently and I'd like to share some with you over the next few weeks to help others out there. I'm going to start with my Self Esteem Mantra. Like many thousands of people - if not everybody at some point in their lives - I suffer with self esteem issues from time to time. To help me get through this I put together some short sentences to help you get through the tough days.

By repeating the sentences over and over to yourself over a period of a month you will start to believe them and feel better in yourself. Now I've put together a lot but its only really effective if you pick 4 or 5 that mean something to you. Keep them at the forefront of your mind during the day and have them written somewhere you will look at e.g in your purse/wallet, on the fridge door, on the mirror, beside your bed etc as a constant reminder. The more you see it and say it the more effective it will be.

Give it a go and see how you get on, you'll be surprised! Whether you are having a success with it or not, try changing the mantra and pick 4 or 5 different ones after a month and use those for different results - you can even come up with some of your own! If you do, please share them with me in the comments box.

The Self Esteem Mantra

1. I believe in myself


2. I do everything well


3. I have much to give the World


4. I am an interesting person, people are interested in what I have to say


5. I accept compliments easily


6. I love and respect body


7. I choose nourishing foods


8. I express my feelings well


9. I communicate lovingly


10. I allow others to know the real me


11. I make friends easily


12. I am loving and affectionate


13. I receive affection easily


14. I forgive myself and others


15. I honour the rights of others. I treat all people with respect.


16. I enjoy doing my best


17. I am equal to all others. I have what it takes.


18. I am always good enough


19. I trust my inner guidance


20. I speak lovingly to myself


21. I have a positive personality


22. I enjoy being playful


23. My inner adult approves of me


24. I deserve the best


25. I surround myself with beauty


26. I chose to be happy. I love to have fun.


27. My life is special


28. Miracles occur in my life.


29. I deserve to be happy


30. I choose to see the best in myself and others.

That should be plenty to get you started. Give it a go and see what results you get for yourself.

Now I know why they call it the runs

Our little kitten isn't very well :o( For a couple of days now she has had diarroeh. We have stopped her food for 24 hours and made sure she has lots to drink and she seems to be on the mend.

However, as she does not understand what is wrong with her she panics when she tries to go to the toilet. She was in the litter tray and when she started to poo it made her jump and she RAN, and I mean FAST all over the place leaving a trail of you know what everywhere!

At first our reaction was NO! There's mess everywhere! Stop running!!! The more she ran, the more the poo came and the more the poo came the more frightenend she got!

I took us a long time to clean it all up! I wasn't very impressed at the time, but now looking back.... it was quite funny. It gives a whole new meaning to having the runs! I dont think I'll give it a try next time I get an upset stomach though, dont think Helen would like that.